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I write the second part of the beginning of this blog on my
lunch break, in the heat, just sitting close enough to an open door to feel the
A/C blasting inside to the outside. Because Fuck
You to energy efficiency.
Anyway, I knew that this whole coming out into the world
after hiding from it my entire life was going to be hard. Of course being newly
single, my friends immediately jumped on the idea of me joining a dating site.
Because to them, being single means meaningless hook-ups. Wasn’t really what I
had in mind. Not that I wasn’t open to meeting new people or going on dates,
but I wanted it to be more than just a hook-up.
This is why it took a few months for me to really truly try and get out
there, dating wise.
First was Tinder. Ladies, if you want a one-night stand/I
don’t care situation, this is the site! Me personally, I used it to work on my
flirting. I really had no intention of meeting a guy from there. I think the
reason was deep down I thought I would still meet someone organically and in
some small way I still think that.
Alright, I suck at flirting. Worst EVER! But man did I have
fun trying. Honestly if I ended up pissing any of those guys off I just remind
myself that not one of them was particularly nice, most were just plain creepy
as fuck. Most dick pics sent to me per capita than any other site. Not a lie.
Some samples of what I encountered:
Next was Plenty of Fish (PoF). I tried this one because my
cousin told me it’s how she met her boyfriend at the time. There were some…nice
guys I guess, but all were pretty much creepy in their own way and no one
seemed to want to meet me. Why do guys act that way? Seriously, coming from a
woman to the men out there, just act like yourself. Dating is already
exhausting, let’s not play games too.
In the end I had heard through others that yet another
dating application might hold the key, OkCupid.
In a drunken state one Saturday night at a friend’s house I
created my profile on OkCupid. I was so beyond really caring at this point. The
other sites had worn me down and I wasn’t sure if I really wanted to get out
and meet a complete stranger somewhere. I found it depressing and I really
believed that nothing was ever going to come out of making myself as appealing
as possible on the interwebs.
I was asked on a date within a week of making that damn
profile.
In total: I’ve met two guys on PoF and two guys on OkCupid
and to this day I still only talk to and see one of them and he is quickly
becoming my best friend and the man I dream about. (Sorry, went a little sweet
and corny there…it happens)
Even though I did meet one person on one of those sites clearly
this wasn’t the answer. I deleted Tinder and PoF (I keep OkCupid because of
reasons) and I just decided to explore my new town.
